My cousin and I haven’t spoken in ten years. As kids, family feuds force you to take one side and stick with it. Fortunately, my cousin and I had the chance to reconnect. We shared childhood memories and regrets of time gone by. Over time we both grew into completely different people, yet share so many similarities. She found the love of her life and they set a wedding date.
On a Sunday afternoon, my cousin came for a visit at my parent’s house while I was in town for the weekend. We were talking wedding plans and I exclaimed how much I loved being a bridesmaid at my older brother’s wedding and wish I could be one again. Lo’ and behold she pulls out a purple box with a white ribbon. I didn’t understand why she would give me a present, but she demanded that I open it immediately without asking questions. Inside the box was a bottle of wine, lotion, candles, a notebook, and a card. She asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding.
I was incredibly touched and accepted without hesitation. The fact that she wanted me to be part of this wonderful celebration after so many years apart meant a great deal to me. But I knew it wasn’t going to be easy.
I took several flights from New York to Rochester. We had to pick out a bridesmaid dress, throw a bridal shower, throw a bachelorette party, and go to the rehearsal and the wedding. It took a lot of coordination with the other bridesmaids, but we made it work and I couldn’t be happier.
The venue was a country club/golf course. It was surrounded by trees colored by the fall season. A big house stood in the middle of the property that held all the accents of coziness and country. A large fountain in the middle of the lake behind the house stood tall spouting gallons and gallons of water into the air. It was the perfect place and season to get married. However, the weather was not on our side. It poured the entire day so the event was held inside. With big bay windows across the backside of the house, you could still appreciate the pretty scenery.
I had butterflies starting 30 minutes before the wedding. Excited, nervous, elated I couldn’t get them to settle. The table set before the ceremony/reception area was beautifully decorated. The theme was wine with leaves scattered, pumpkins popping up here and there, all held in the eggplant color of the decor. It was intimate and elegant.