I have an older brother who loves to complain about women receiving special treatment.
His reasons are
- A man will do you a favor to impress you
- You are pretty, so of course you’ll get what you ask for
- Ladies can pressure a man into doing anything
He’s never serious about these points unless he’s upset and was “cheated” of something.
Just recently I was on my way home late at night. I waited for a bus which took any where between 10 to 15 minutes. This particular night that I was waiting was extremely cold. As someone who always carries a scarf, wears a large coat, and stresses her friends of the importance of wearing a hat, I was furious that I hadn’t watched the news earlier in the day to know that the weather would be below 20 degrees.
So there I was… freezing.
I stood there and thought, “okay, you have been spending way too much on cabs. Tonight you will withstand the cold. You can do it. Just a little longer. Hang in there. The bus should be around the corner.”
These words kept me going, until I looked across the street an saw a green taxi. “Oh”, I thought. “One more ride won’t hurt. You deserve it. Besides, you’ll die if you spend one more second waiting for this bus.” So I pulled my hand out. To this day I still don’t know if I’m supposed to wave, put my hand up like I have a question that needs to be answered, or stick out my index finger. So, I did all three, as usual. My fingers felt like carrots and holding my hand out became my punishment for spending more money.
As I did my hand gestures, I saw the cab pass me by and I began to cry internally. “Of all the nights to deny me a ride, why? Why, oh why tonight?”
Soon after, a black cab pulled up beside me and the man gestured for me to get in.
I thought, “damn. I would have to withdraw money from an ATM machine and I really don’t want to.”
Frustrated that I’d have to find an ATM I decided to ask, “do you have the thing for me to pay with my debit card?” I was so cold that my brain was now giving up on me. Of course he didn’t have one of those. This was clearly a cash only cab. But I asked and received the answer that I had expected.
I closed the cab door and expected for him to speed off and find another cold little lady on her way home. But he did the unexpected. He asked, “how far are you going?” I told him my address and he replied, “hop in.” After he said this I let it sink in. Is the really happening? What does this mean? Will I owe him sex if he does this? He better not expect it! I then looked to my left and saw a man. Maybe my brothers age whose eyes squinted at the sight of a woman getting a free ride, or at least that’s what I thought went through his head. All I could hear at that moment was my brother saying, “you ladies always get whatever you want, while men get treated like crap. Blah. Blah. Blah.”
I got in getting ready to ask if he was going to stop by the gas station not too far that has an ATM machine, but I thought to myself, “lets see how this goes.”
I normally make small talk with cab drivers, but there was something strange about that ride. I didn’t feel comfortable enough to ask about his day or even talk about mine. I thought, “maybe he’s and introvert or maybe he isn’t interested, so don’t speak unless he does. Don’t ruin it.”
Half way through the ride we stopped at a red light and to the right was the gas station with a large sign that read “ATM inside.”
Those few seconds waiting for the light to change felt like an eternity. As cold as it was, I was sweating. Now you might think this was dramatic and I agree, but at the time I really didn’t want to step a foot of the car until I was home and my goal was to save my money.
We were two blocks away from my house and I continuously thanked him. I even asked for his name. I told him that I’d keep him in my prayers and hoped that he have a successful year. He dropped me off and I bragged about my experience to my sister. Although I don’t totally agree that women get whatever they want, I do believe that the cab driver was being a gentleman and wanted to help a young lady who was freezing her ass off.