When I came in New York on the last September, I was totally exciting thinking about this new life which was starting.
In Paris, I often use to complain about how the connection with the others can be difficult, like lots of people do. And actually this is what we like: to complain! Even about ourselves. Here is our reputation throughout the world ! But this is our lifestyle…
At first I thought: New York is gonna be different, american people are known to be opened… more than French at least ! But the truth is, after 2 months of discovery in this new town, I realize this is not gonna be so easy to adapt.
Indeed, as I figured out the New Yorkers are complicated too. On one side, comparing to Paris people from here are interested in what you do, Which school you go in, they ask about your job and anything… That is right, you can have a conversation with someone perfectly unknown everywhere, even in the street! People are warmer.
On the other hand, while it is easy to speak to New Yorkers, it is also difficult to keep in contact with them. My impression is they seem not really deep about relationship…I would almost like to say very superficial !
You can meet someone and talk with him for two hours and never see him again. Like I do, I am pretty sure you meet a lot of persons when you go out at night in bar or anywhere else. But keeping touch with them seems easy for you?
I thought about it lots of time, because not so long ago, I was disappointed about it and discouraged. “you leave in a new country, you want to learn their language, share their culture and at the end you mostly spend your time with French people!” It sounded really bad for me.
I tried to see the problem in a different way. I finally understand that the problem come also from us… As I said it’s not in our culture to be opened and naturally sociable. Our education wasn’t this one and without realize, we brought our bad habits here. In this city, it is our responsibility to reach out people. Not the one of the New Yorkers who have lived here since their birth. We are the new comers so we have to insist and be curious of everything, I mean call back people, understand how they are…
It’ s definitely not gonna be easy, even for me… I like my french habits too! But that I would like even more: to benefit fully from this year abroad and the New Yorkers’s culture.
So I think I will to try. It’s up to you!
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